PROBLEM? Have you ever dated someone too attractive? I love how this ended up tying to morning candy, and I didn’t even mean for it too.
But, this morning when I logged onto my computer, I found this little email waiting for me:
I know this is so stupid, and not something I should be worried about, but here goes..
Ok, so I recently had a date with someone who has easily the hottest (non-celebrity) guy I’ve ever seen. It was only our first date, so I don’t know him very well, but I can’t imagine that he doesn’t have women lusting after him wherever he goes. He is 110% my physical type - I wouldn’t change a thing about him.
As for myself, I’m cute, but kind of shy and not really ont to flaunt my assets. The guys i’ve dated in the past have been averagely cute and more on the shy side also. This guy also seems really down to Earth and not aware of how attractive he is, but I can’t help but notice it!!
Anyway, how do you get over the initial shock of dating someone so gorgeous?! How do you deal with feeling like he/she might be “out of your league?”
My first thought here is.. I don’t believe in the whole concept of “out of your league” thing.. I mean sure, you might not have too much in common with someone who views himself as extremely good looking because he might be too high maintenance, concieted, or an embittered psycho relationship terrorist, but don’t pin your status on something as fleeting and subjective as looks.
I mean really, his looks are going to fade, so you need to find out what kind of a person he is under those muscles and perfectly chiseled features. If he happens to be perfect there too, why not just consider yourself lucky to have snagged that catch?
Of course this makes sense.. but at the same time, I see her concern. I mean everywhere she goes she’s going to have to deal with and accecpt the fact that women (and probably most men) will be checking out her date. And I don’t know about you, but I always prefer to be the “cuter one” in a relationship.
When I presented this today on the show, listeners started texting in about that old adage “5s pick 5s and 10s date other 10s.” But then how do you account for gold diggers who prey upon feeble 80 year old men? Teachers who have affairs with students? And then even if this is a universal truth, maybe your idea of a 10 is someone else’s 7.
To this listener I say, if you continue to go out and have fun, maybe you’re just underestimating your own attractiveness. If he didn’t want to be with you, he wouldn’t be.
But what do you think? How do you deal with dating someone viewed as “too attractive” or “too gorgeous?”