The Gentleman’s Guide To Sending Women Drinks

You see her at a bar and want to get her attention without coming across as a jerk or a creeper. From, here’s 6 ways how to make an impression on her as a gentleman.

Use the bartender as your wingman

To pull this off correctly, it’s  essential to get the bartender on your side. Make sure to treat him with respect  and not like a lackey. After all, his delivery will go a long way to determining  how the woman is going to react. If his body language says you’re a jerk, it  doesn’t matter what words he uses when he brings the drink over to her. When  sending women drinks, the bartender is your wingman  and in order to make him a helpful and willing one, you should be nice and tip  big.

Ask what she’s drinking

You can’t just order any old drink and send it over to her. You should ask the bartender what she’s drinking  and send another of the same to her when it looks like her drink is getting a  little low (but before she orders a fresh one). If you end up choosing something  she doesn’t like, you’ll have wasted a drink and won’t get the reaction you  desire. Play it safe and send her something you know will please her taste buds.  Another way of doing this is to ask the bartender to charge you for whatever  drink she orders next. When he hands it to her he can gesture in your direction,  indicating that it’s on you.

The casual nod

As the bartender takes the drink over, keep your eyes on  the woman. When he points you out to her, put on a genuine smile and give a  casual nod. You could also slightly raise your glass toward her. Don’t jump up  and down or wave at her like a lunatic. You don’t have to act overly eager. Just  keep it cool and sincere.

Observe her reaction

The next step is to watch her reaction to see  whether or not you should make your way over to introduce yourself. If she  returns your smile and waves, you’ve got a green light. If she turns to her  friends and giggles, give it some time to figure out whether she’s laughing  at you or expressing her delight to the girls. Anything along the lines of  eye-rolling, nose-upturning or refusing the drink is obviously a bad sign. In  that case, shrug it off.

Introduce yourself

Give her a chance to enjoy her drink. Then, if her  reaction is favorable, approach her and start up a conversation. You shouldn’t  act cocky or assume anything just because she accepted your drink. You have  created yourself an in to start things off with her, but don’t take it for  granted. You still have to use your wit and charm  to make a good impression. A proper follow-up is key when it comes to sending  women drinks.

The ice is broken

Sending a woman a drink is a classic move that many  women will appreciate. It’s an old-school gentlemanly  move (you know Clooney  would approve) that doesn’t get used too much these days, and therefore has some  novelty appeal. If you feel like taking a more direct approach, you could just  go up and talk to her, but sending over a cocktail first will make her feel  special and show her that you’re a generous guy. Sending a drink over will  definitely provide you with an easy icebreaker. From there, it’s up to you to  form a connection and get her interested in you.


Have you successfully snagged someone you were attacted to at a bar? How so?