Should I Dump This A$$hole?

So here’s this week’s “Should I Dump This A$$hole” email from Travis. I’m not really sure what to make of it..

He wants your unbiased third party opinions, so let him know.. should he dump this girl?

I’ve been dating Ashley for over two months now. I’m 32 and she’s 26 and one of the most beautiful women I’ve even seen. I didn’t want to come on too strong in the beginning, so I didn’t see her more than once a week and never called her.

It went pretty well. She would initiate contact most of the time, and even asked me out. She was very complimentary toward me and mentioned how she enjoyed spending time with me. She would even make plans for the future.

Anyway, last week Ashley kept checking her phone on our date, and then mentioned this guy, Johnny, who had a crush on her. Turns out, he was the guy she was texting, and even though she assured me he had a girlfriend, I couldn’t figure why the two were corresponding on a Saturday night.

Maybe it’s my fault since I have avoided telling her that I really liked her, but after that night, we haven’t texted or called. It’s like this big awkward silence.

Should I call her and ask her out on another date and see what she has to say about what’s going on? I can feel her interest dropping, and in my mind the right thing to do at this point is back off. Right?

I’m not sure how to tackle this situation.

Should I dump her?

Travis

This one’s tricky.

I mean Ashley should not have used her phone on your date ESPECIALLY to text another guy. And then why would she go and tell you about it? Sure, she could like this Johnny character, and if that is in fact the case, you should kick her to the curb right now. But my theory is she was using her phone to make you feel unimportant, just as you have apparently done with her from the beginning.

I don’t know about other girls but for me, when a guy acts aloof and uninterested from the start, I’ll make sure I return the favor. That’s quite a difference from being confident and challenging, and once you cross that line, you’re just wasting my time.

You met a girl and you liked her, but expected her to jump through hoops for you? How can you expect her to continuously show interest in YOU when you aren’t showing ANY to HER?

My advice would be to stop reading smarmy guy dating books, and ask her out again. Change your tactics and see what happens.

What do you think?

-Katy