Should I Dump This A$$hole?

Every week my inbox runneth over with problems from our listeners – especially dating problems.

No, I’m not *nor have I ever claimed to be* an expert when it comes to matters of the heart.. every week I merely voice my opinion and then ask the audience for their input.

Your family and friends are obviously going to have a bias in any given situation, so what I am offering you here is a bevy of strangers, all eager to share their wisdom and experience with you.

So here’s this week’s SIDTA email from Karen.

Katy,

I am going to keep this short and sweet. My boyfriend recently told me his list of priorities.

Where do I fall on this list? If I had to guess, it would be towards the bottom.

The thing is, I get that his job is important to him. I just basically want to know if any good can come out of the phrase, “I think we should spend less time together.”

Thoughts?

Should I dump this a$$hole?

-Karen

 

Karen,

Here’s why this is hard.

I have totally been in this same situation. When I was in Houston I worked everyday for 2 years. I get it. My job was my top priority, and I couldn’t be with someone who didn’t understand that. My time and energy were so focused on that one aspect of my life, it was difficult for me to give anything to anybody else.

And at the end of the day, I theorized, this should be a good quality right? I am driven, focused, goal-oriented, all traits that someone should be looking for in a partner.. so I didn’t see how I could be faulted for such a work ethic.

The problem with this though (and something I didn’t realize until much later), is the people I was dating then weren’t WORTHY of my time. Had I been dating someone amazing that I wouldn’t want to lose, you can @*!& sure bet I’d have made time for that guy.

Work is important. Everyone knows that. But there’s a way to tell you he needs to focus that doesn’t make use of the phrase, “I think we should spend less time together.”

To me that’s saying, I have better things to do than hang out with you, my girlfriend.

And when has that ever turned into something positive?! Never. NEVER.

DUMP HIM! With a mindset like that, HE’S not worthy of YOUR time.

Do you agree?

-Katy

Some texts from 23504

Yes, dump him. He’s not interested anymore.

He just broke up with you. You didn’t get the hint.

Katy….. Just get them all “the book” ;D Roxi

HES JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU!! LEAVE HIM!!!

Yes she should,if he’s going be like that he doesnt deserve a girl at all

If someone would have said that to me i would have said “is breaking up with you less enough time for you? Because that’s what I’m doing. You’re welcome!”

Been here, done that. It starts with the job and soon EVERYHING will be a higher priority than you.

Reminds me of that quote, “Don’t make someone a priority when they only make you an option.” DUMP HIM.

Definitely dump his ass! When he sees your world doesn’t revolve around him & that you’re moving on he’ll regret it. Someone that values their time with you is out there somewhere.

Why is this even a ? DUMP HIM.

No good can come out of a situation where you want to spend less time with someone.

Maybe a good idea…… but worded poorly?

…there no saving this situation. Tell her to get out and I’m available ;)

That’s not such a bad thing. I’ve been dating my girlfriend over two years and we are with each other almost all the time. Eventually you start to frustrate the other person and get on their nerves and you just need a little more space

I think if you told the person that you dont want to burn out on yalls relationship and want to take things a little slower, and add in that you should spend less time together. It’d be reasonable.

Some times people have to realize what they have in order to hold on tighter. Maybe with less time he will realize he really cares about you.