Last week, Katie J.M. Baker of Jezebel.com posted this spreadsheet, designed by a New York banker as a way to organize his match.com prospects.
He included their name, a photo, his initial impressions after viewing their profile, the dates when they’d exchanged winks, the dates of when they’d exchanged emails, and impressions of their first date. He color-coded the women according to who he wanted to “monitor closely ASAP” and who he wanted to “monitor casually.”
And who says guys pay no attention to detail?!
The only thing I find disgusting about this, is that during a great date on April 4th with “Arielle,” a woman described on his spreadsheet as “very pretty; sweet & down to earth/great personality,” this guy let it slip that he had this little gem. When she asked to see it, he emailed it to her saying,
“Well…this could be a mistake, but what the hell. I hope this e-mail doesn’t backfire, because I really had a great time and hope to hang again soon.”
That’s when the (!&* hit the fan. Arielle sent it to her friends, who sent it to their friends, who sent it to Jezebel, and now the whole thing has gone viral.
Ladies everywhere are calling David Merkur a pig. A womanizing, numerical categorizing, chauvinistic pig.
Am I the only one who finds this endearing?
Minus his use of the word jappy, I see tons of positives with David. For starters, he’s consistent. The girls ages range from 25-28. As he is 28, this is a good sign. He’s not trolling the internet dating scene to pick up some 22 year old bimbo.
AND all of his comments are nice. He doesn’t say anything negative, and if he thinks a girl has bad pictures, he merely says “mixed bag.”
The guy works with spreadsheets, so why is he being chastised about using one for his personal life?
And how is this any different from girls making pros and cons lists when trying to decide between two men? I’ve read and written blog posts which include much gorier details. I don’t think he’s objectifying any more than the average person who’s dating around.
So what if it’s in excel rather than a monogrammed piece of staionary? People are OVERREACTING. Maybe it’s because I’d like to land a guy who is romantic with a keen eye for detail, but I think his only mistake was sending it to that girl in the first place, and he shouldn’t need to apologize for creating it.
What do you think of this spreadsheet? Organized and romantic? Or creepy and wrong?
Because it’s Friday, and you’ve still got a few hours to kill before the weekend starts.
This is actually pretty old, but a short snippet of it has been re-posted recently. I wanted you to enjoy the full experience though, so I found the entire thing.
“What’s cooler than being cool?” “
REALLY OLD.. err I mean ICE COLD.”
HAHA this is just another reason to go to church. My friends, I present to you the rapping fbs choir..
I’ve been trying to get this band for a while now, and I am happy to say they are tonight’s Rock the Republic featured artist at Ozona Grill & Bar for Party on the Patio. Their live show starts at 8, but you’re going to want to get there early for a seat. While you wait enjoy those $2 wells, $2 domestic drafts, and our $3 nerd shot. We are also going to have crawfish on the patio and if you find me I’ll get you entered to win $500 to Ozona.
Guys, prepare to be blown away by the great local talent, The Jeremiahs.
See yall tonight!
Here’s your humpday hypothetical:
I’d go with tequila, becuase no matter how many times I wake up in the morning hungover, I still continue to drink.
I will not however, to this day, eat at the fine establishment that sent me to the hospital.
But what about you?!
I know one too many people in my life that refer to “facebook stalking” exes, new prospects, old classmates, merely as “research.”
Oh, who am I kidding. I will be the first to admit, that even I love sometimes keeping tabs with people via social networking sites. I enjoy the occasional dip behind enemy lines, especially when the information is so readily available and easy to access!
But THAT is where I draw the spying line, if you could even call it that.
Which is why, when I heard about this couple from Houston.. where a guy had put up recording devices to try and catch his lover “in the act” .. I couldn’t help but think, isn’t that a little too far?
I mean if you are going to such great lengths to prove someone is cheating, I’d say the pair of you have way bigger issues. Right?
The one time I ever went through a boyfriend’s cell phone, it was more of a confirmation. I mean the guy’s grandma had died twice in the four months we were together, and I couldn’t help but notice everytime he attended a “funeral” he’d come back with some pretty questionable burns and tan lines.
Call me naive I guess, but I just had to see it with my own eyes to really believe it.
So my question here is, in some healthy relationships, do you feel you have to spy on someone to ensure that everything is on track?
Even though I do have some trust issues, I seriously doubt I would let myself get to that point. You’re just driving yourself crazy and for what? Proof that you’re dating a terrible person?
The happiest and most successful relationships I’ve ever been a part of have been based entirely on trust. When you do something like log into her e-mail, or read his cellphone texts, you are completely violating that trust, and ultimately negating much of the moral high ground you could take should you find anything incriminating.
I mean what would you say if you found something? “I really lost my trust in you after I broke into your email?”
Maybe ignorance here is bliss – or am I wrong?
What do you think? Have you ever spied? Do you think spying is acceptable?
Texts to 23504
“You should not have to snoop through your significant others items. If you do, then you shouldn’t be with them. if you can’t trust someone then the relationship will fail eventually. I have never snooped because I’ve never felt the need to. If I don’t trust him, I end it. I always go with my gut. ”
“HAHA. I can honestly say I have never even Facebook stalked my now husband. We have known each other for 13 years and been together for almost 7. I feel sorry for people whose realtionships are not built on trust.”
“I don’t understand why snoopers snoop, if someone is gonna cheat, snooping isn’t going to stop them or prevent it. I also don’t get people who stay in realtionships if they don’t have any trust. What a draning, unhappy place.”
“I checked his phone to make sure our relationship had the trust I thought it did, I found numerous messages to girls… I went with my gut and found what I felt.. 4 years wasted. Gut = always right.”
“I look through her phone occasionally because she lied to me in the beginning of the relationship.”
“Hell one thing is true you never find out anything good snooping!!!”