Katy Dempsey
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Do You SPY on Your Significant Other?
Tuesday, April 17th, 2012
I know one too many people in my life that refer to “facebook stalking” exes, new prospects, old classmates, merely as “research.”
Oh, who am I kidding. I will be the first to admit, that even I love sometimes keeping tabs with people via social networking sites. I enjoy the occasional dip behind enemy lines, especially when the information is so readily available and easy to access!
But THAT is where I draw the spying line, if you could even call it that.
Which is why, when I heard about this couple from Houston.. where a guy had put up recording devices to try and catch his lover “in the act” .. I couldn’t help but think, isn’t that a little too far?
I mean if you are going to such great lengths to prove someone is cheating, I’d say the pair of you have way bigger issues. Right?
The one time I ever went through a boyfriend’s cell phone, it was more of a confirmation. I mean the guy’s grandma had died twice in the four months we were together, and I couldn’t help but notice everytime he attended a “funeral” he’d come back with some pretty questionable burns and tan lines.
Call me naive I guess, but I just had to see it with my own eyes to really believe it.
So my question here is, in some healthy relationships, do you feel you have to spy on someone to ensure that everything is on track?
Even though I do have some trust issues, I seriously doubt I would let myself get to that point. You’re just driving yourself crazy and for what? Proof that you’re dating a terrible person?
The happiest and most successful relationships I’ve ever been a part of have been based entirely on trust. When you do something like log into her e-mail, or read his cellphone texts, you are completely violating that trust, and ultimately negating much of the moral high ground you could take should you find anything incriminating.
I mean what would you say if you found something? “I really lost my trust in you after I broke into your email?”
Maybe ignorance here is bliss – or am I wrong?
What do you think? Have you ever spied? Do you think spying is acceptable?
-Katy
Texts to 23504
“You should not have to snoop through your significant others items. If you do, then you shouldn’t be with them. if you can’t trust someone then the relationship will fail eventually. I have never snooped because I’ve never felt the need to. If I don’t trust him, I end it. I always go with my gut. 
”
“HAHA. I can honestly say I have never even Facebook stalked my now husband. We have known each other for 13 years and been together for almost 7. I feel sorry for people whose realtionships are not built on trust.”
“I don’t understand why snoopers snoop, if someone is gonna cheat, snooping isn’t going to stop them or prevent it. I also don’t get people who stay in realtionships if they don’t have any trust. What a draning, unhappy place.”
“I checked his phone to make sure our relationship had the trust I thought it did, I found numerous messages to girls… I went with my gut and found what I felt.. 4 years wasted. Gut = always right.”
“I look through her phone occasionally because she lied to me in the beginning of the relationship.”
“Hell one thing is true you never find out anything good snooping!!!”
Whatchu think?
Missed Connection Monday
Monday, April 16th, 2012
Nothing gets me going on Mondays quite like reading the best of what the BCS has to offer via Craigslist.
If you’re new to my blog, Missed Connections are those encounters you have with complete strangers where you assume, had you actually made a move with that lady in front of you in line at Walmart, something cosmic and earth shattering would have resulted. But since you weren’t man enough to actually engage her in a normal and mundane conversation, you turn to Craigslist and post your experience for thousands of people to read.
They range from creepy to vague, desperate to romantic.. and here are some from our area.
I would like to point out that a Zoosk membership is $9.99 a month. I hope you like the dollar menu.
“Now I ain’t saying she a gold digger.. but she ain’t messing with no broke …”
..and I was checking it twice. *it* being code for your !#@
If I were you, I’d probably take off Thursday next week.. and probably every week after.
That’s one thing I love about this town. Everyone is so friendly. This is a nice missed connection for a change.
Who isn’t looking for an amateur massage therapist?!
..I drive a red F 150.. as does half of College Station. Good luck pal.
If you would like to respond to one of these (or you just need a few more lol’s on this Monday morning) click here.
Keeping the BCS connected,
Katy
Friday the 13th
Friday, April 13th, 2012
Get out that lucky rabbits foot and dust off your horseshoes.. because Friday the 13th is upon us my friends.
If I spill salt- you can bet I’m throwing some over my left shoulder, if there’s a ladder nearby- I see no reason to walk directly underneath it, and if a black cat runs in front of my truck before I go out- you can bet I’m staying home (well, that’s not entirely true but I won’t leave immediately)
Now before you start thinking I’m insane, I’ll have you know that I’ve broken a dozen mirrors in my life, and my mom’s back seems to be doing just fine considering the amount of cracks I’ve probably stepped on without even noticing.
The biggest superstition in western culture, is Friday the 13th. I take pride in the fact that I don’t see it as all that threatening.. maybe because usually I have no idea what day it is.
But if the thought of merely leaving the house this Friday the 13th has you spooked, rest assured you’re in good company. The Stress Management Centre and Phobia Institute, based in Asheville, N.C., estimates that $800 million to $900 million US is lost every time the 13th of the month falls on a Friday, as people avoid doing business or flying.
HOLY COW.
The official names for fear of Friday the 13th are friggatriskaidekaphobia and paraskevidekatriaphobia. Sufferers can have symptoms as severe as panic attacks.
Stuart Vyse, professor of psychology at Connecticut College, said the superstition that associates Friday the 13th with bad luck is one of the most widespread in Western culture.
An article on the National Geographic website reports that between 17 million and 21 million people in the U.S. suffer from some degree of fear related to the day.
Despite the superstitions, the Insurance Bureau of Canada said there are no statistics showing an increased risk to drivers. In fact, it might be just the opposite.
No one’s exactly sure of the roots of the calendar-based fear, but there are several popular theories.
ORIGINS:
Some Christians tie together the belief that Judas — who would eventually betray Christ — was the 13th guest at the Last Supper, and Christ was supposedly crucified on a Friday. Other theologians have also theorized that Abel was slain by his brother Cain on Friday the 13th.
Jumping ahead to the 14th century, some believe the fear originated when King Philip IV of France had the Knights Templar arrested on Friday, Oct. 13, 1307. Looking to seize their vast wealth, Philip ordered the mass arrest of members of the Christian military order that had been active in the Crusades. Confessions for a variety of crimes, including heresy, were obtained from them with the help of torture.
This Templar theory has recently gained traction in pop culture as a result of references to it made in Dan Brown’s novel The Da Vinci Code.
The number 13 is also considered unlucky in Norse mythology, with the mischievous god Loki being the uninvited 13th guest at a banquet of the gods. Loki would eventually trick the blind god Hoder into killing Balder, the god of joy and gladness, plunging the Earth into mourning and darkness.
Ancient Romans weren’t huge fans of 13 either. They believed that witches gathered in groups of 12, and a 13th person joining them would be the devil.
But while there are references throughout history to both Friday and the number 13 being unlucky, there’s evidence that the combination of the two is a creation of the 20th century. An 1898 edition of E. Cobham Brewer’s Dictionary of Phrase and Fable, has entries for both the number and the day, noting both as unlucky but makes no mention of the combination of the two.
A 1907 novel by businessman Thomas Lawson, and simply titled Friday, the Thirteenth, tells the story of a stock broker trying to manipulate the market on Friday the 13th. It was fairly popular at the time it was published and may have helped to cement the idea of the day being unlucky.
Legend has it:
If 13 people sit down to dinner together, one will die within the year. The Turks so disliked the number 13 that it was practically expunged from their vocabulary (Brewer, 1894). Many cities do not have a 13th Street or a 13th Avenue. Many buildings don’t have a 13th floor. If you have 13 letters in your name, you will have the devil’s luck (Jack the Ripper, Charles Manson, Jeffrey Dahmer, Theodore Bundy and Albert De Salvo all have 13 letters in their names). There are 13 witches in a coven.
Never change your bed on Friday; it will bring bad dreams. If you cut your nails on Friday, you cut them for sorrow. Don’t start a trip on Friday or you will encounter misfortune. Ships that set sail on a Friday will have bad luck, as in the tale of H.M.S. Friday. One hundred years ago, the British government sought to quell the longstanding superstition among seamen that setting sail on Fridays was unlucky. A special ship was commissioned and given the name “H.M.S. Friday.” They laid her keel on a Friday, launched her on a Friday, selected her crew on a Friday, and hired a man named Jim Friday to be her captain. To top it off, H.M.S. Friday embarked on her maiden voyage on a Friday — and was never seen or heard from again.
Do you have any superstitions? And do you think buying into one superstition will cause you to buy into larger ones that could be dangerous?
I say no.
-Katy
AUDIO: The Grind – POP
Thursday, April 12th, 2012
The Grind stopped by the show today to play a few songs for me. I swear I can not believe they’ve only been together for 3 months!
Make sure you stop by Ozona Grill & Bar tonight to hear them LIVE at Party on the Patio.
Enjoy.
POLL: Would You Rather Wednesday
Wednesday, April 11th, 2012
I’m sorry to engage your gag reflexes so early in the morning, but having worked in a restaurant, this question fills me with morbid curiosity.
As gross as finding a live bug of any kind ANYWHERE, I’d pick band-aid and here’s why. Forget rationalization, go for opportunity. Do a thorough vomit, cross your fingers, hire a good attorney, and retire early.
That’s just me, but which would you rather?!
-Katy