Disclaimer: For those of you that take this title WAY too seriously, I’ve already taken a$$hole out – and I’m not amending it any further. Not all these guys are a$$holes, and not all of these problems warrant a dumping.
Here’s this week’s SIDT email.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half. Its a very good relationship, filled with lots of laughing and fun!!!! We definitely both enjoy each others company. I’ve recently met his parents and siblings. He took me to his brothers wedding. We spend every weekend together (at my place) and I spend some nights at his place during the week.
I’ve mentioned here and there about him and I moving in together. But, he is not ready. I’m so confused at times with him, because he makes me feel like that is what he wants; and as soon as I mention it he says that I’m pressuring him. He buys stuff for my place and always uses the phrase “ours”, talks about marriage as well. I feel like if he really loved me as much as he says he does he would want to make the next step. He has told me that he will only move in with a girl that he is engaged to.
Then my next question is why does he talk about marriage? he is just playing around with me? or playing house? and if so – should I dump him?
First, I’d like to answer your question with another question..
Why on Earth would you want to live with someone when you don’t have to? Living alone is the best.
AND if he was just playing around with you, then HELL YES you should dump him..
But in all seriousness, dude totally already answered your question for you: “He has told me that he will only move in with a girl that he is engaged to.”
WAM BAM THANK YA MA’AM. I wouldn’t fault a guy for actually wanting to do things the right way for once. And, as for not popping the question just yet, maybe it’s money related or nerves.. or both.
Right now, just relax and enjoy spending time with him. And count your blessings you don’t have to pick his hairs off your soap.
Since I’ve never wanted to live with someone – what would your advice be? Is there some kind of couples timeline I’m blissfully unaware of? Would you give an ultimatum and then possibly kick his !@# to the curb?
Let me know!
Texts from 23504:
You should def live together first before you get engaged. People are very different once you live with them
If he’s not ready, he’s not ready. Pump the breaks before you run him off.
agree with u… Why want the guy do something he really don’t want too.. PATIENCE?!
If he stated that he doesn’t want to move in until you are engaged then.. there is your answer!
Of course, the other side of it is that he already has all the privileges of marriage from you without any of the responsibilities. Why WOULD he want to take the relationship to the next step? He’s got the step he wanted. His talk of marriage is primarily to keep you ready and willing for the intimacy and the fun so he gets what he wants without needing to commit.
nine months is not that long, breathe.
This guy is just getting what he wants without making you a commitment or priority.
What he is in love with is the idea of marriage, the idea of being with just you, for always. The i-d-e-a. The reality scares the living bejesus out of him. Men are commitment phobic. It’s on that Y chromosome
Life is too short to waste your time on anyone who doesn’t appreciate you! Good luck, and God Bless.
He’s just not ready to commit. He’s playing you. If he loves you, and he’s ready to spend the rest of his life with you he’d be happy to get right down to it, and get engaged and make plans to marry you.
once you are on 3-5 years and you are at this point then start wondering if you should move on, but right now relax and just enjoy time together!
Some guys will purposely delay asking just because they know that you are expecting it, and that isn’t how they want it, they want to surprise you Ignore the subject for a few months, and if he brings up marriage, tell him: You don’t feel comfortable talking about marriage, until you are engaged! then let it go~
I don’t know if I would donate to this cause, but I sure would like a copy of the final product.
WHICH WOULD YOU RATHER?!
And here’s that funny video a listener sent me. hahaha!
Have you ever wanted to say something to an ex, without ever actually having to contact him or her again?
Let’s face it, we all look back at situations and think, WHY DIDN’T I SAY THAT?!
Maybe you had a tough break up, you’re not happy with how things went down, he owes you money.. whatever it is, here’s your chance!
Example: To my ex- I would like back my copy of Tombstone .. and the last 4 months.
Here’s a few from the 23504 textline:
Just want to let my ex know that IT IS my decision if I want to be with you or not…don’t ever tell me I don’t have a choice of my own relationship status. You’re so controlling.
I thank God everyday it didnt work. I would not have met my wife if I hadn’t moved for you. Thanks for breaking up with me – it was the kindest thing you’d ever done.
You really hurt me. No matter what happens, I don’t think there’ll ever be another guy who loved and cherished you as much as I did. I don’t know where I’m going from here, it’s just like everything changed all at once. I just know that you won’t be there.. I love you Chelsea, I always will too. Please take care.
You owe me $1000 a!*@&*$.
Brandon. Your “Johnson” is not worth all the trouble
Kurt, I can’t believe you cheated on your girlfriend with me for months. I thought you would leave her and choose the right girl
No Dont wait 5 dates in to tell me you hape genital herpes doesnt matter how hot you are i still dont wanna have sex with you
Call me when you figure out what you want.
A message to my ex would be thanks for breaking up with me the say my aunt died over a text message
Message to my ex girlfriend.. “I really miss you and apologize for not being able to make it to the park that last day before you had gone away. I wanted to tell you I loved you and that I wish your father would accept me for who I am and respect my effort put forth to be the best boyfriend I could be. Even though he’s cast you away from my warmth…I will always love you and wish that we meet again in the future. I have met someone who has brought that love we so shared back into my heart and I hope you have found yours as well. Love, Gummybear
that’s what you get for whoring around. good luck finding a date to that wedding.
put down the nail polish and women’s hydroxicut you selfish, insignificant man child.
Grow up and Quit freaking trying to impress ur current family and take care of the first kids u had!!!!
You cheat on me, you send me to jail, but yet you still call me saying how you miss me and still love me. Thanks
To my ex, I never really liked you, just had you around so nobody knew I liked girls (: but thanks for cheating and making it easier to let you go.
The day u cheated after 16 yrs 2gether ended up being the best thing 4 me! I know have the fanily n unconditional love I always wanted! Thx!!!!
I always thought you were gay…..
What would you say to your ex?