I know one too many people in my life that refer to “facebook stalking” exes, new prospects, old classmates, merely as “research.”
Oh, who am I kidding. I will be the first to admit, that even I love sometimes keeping tabs with people via social networking sites. I enjoy the occasional dip behind enemy lines, especially when the information is so readily available and easy to access!
But THAT is where I draw the spying line, if you could even call it that.
Which is why, when I heard about this couple from Houston.. where a guy had put up recording devices to try and catch his lover “in the act” .. I couldn’t help but think, isn’t that a little too far?
I mean if you are going to such great lengths to prove someone is cheating, I’d say the pair of you have way bigger issues. Right?
The one time I ever went through a boyfriend’s cell phone, it was more of a confirmation. I mean the guy’s grandma had died twice in the four months we were together, and I couldn’t help but notice everytime he attended a “funeral” he’d come back with some pretty questionable burns and tan lines.
Call me naive I guess, but I just had to see it with my own eyes to really believe it.
So my question here is, in some healthy relationships, do you feel you have to spy on someone to ensure that everything is on track?
Even though I do have some trust issues, I seriously doubt I would let myself get to that point. You’re just driving yourself crazy and for what? Proof that you’re dating a terrible person?
The happiest and most successful relationships I’ve ever been a part of have been based entirely on trust. When you do something like log into her e-mail, or read his cellphone texts, you are completely violating that trust, and ultimately negating much of the moral high ground you could take should you find anything incriminating.
I mean what would you say if you found something? “I really lost my trust in you after I broke into your email?”
Maybe ignorance here is bliss – or am I wrong?
What do you think? Have you ever spied? Do you think spying is acceptable?
Texts to 23504
“You should not have to snoop through your significant others items. If you do, then you shouldn’t be with them. if you can’t trust someone then the relationship will fail eventually. I have never snooped because I’ve never felt the need to. If I don’t trust him, I end it. I always go with my gut. :)”
“HAHA. I can honestly say I have never even Facebook stalked my now husband. We have known each other for 13 years and been together for almost 7. I feel sorry for people whose realtionships are not built on trust.”
“I don’t understand why snoopers snoop, if someone is gonna cheat, snooping isn’t going to stop them or prevent it. I also don’t get people who stay in realtionships if they don’t have any trust. What a draning, unhappy place.”
“I checked his phone to make sure our relationship had the trust I thought it did, I found numerous messages to girls… I went with my gut and found what I felt.. 4 years wasted. Gut = always right.”
“I look through her phone occasionally because she lied to me in the beginning of the relationship.”
“Hell one thing is true you never find out anything good snooping!!!”
The Grind stopped by the show today to play a few songs for me. I swear I can not believe they’ve only been together for 3 months!
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I’m sorry to engage your gag reflexes so early in the morning, but having worked in a restaurant, this question fills me with morbid curiosity.
As gross as finding a live bug of any kind ANYWHERE, I’d pick band-aid and here’s why. Forget rationalization, go for opportunity. Do a thorough vomit, cross your fingers, hire a good attorney, and retire early.
That’s just me, but which would you rather?!
PROBLEM? Have you ever dated someone too attractive? I love how this ended up tying to morning candy, and I didn’t even mean for it too.
But, this morning when I logged onto my computer, I found this little email waiting for me:
I know this is so stupid, and not something I should be worried about, but here goes..
Ok, so I recently had a date with someone who has easily the hottest (non-celebrity) guy I’ve ever seen. It was only our first date, so I don’t know him very well, but I can’t imagine that he doesn’t have women lusting after him wherever he goes. He is 110% my physical type - I wouldn’t change a thing about him.
As for myself, I’m cute, but kind of shy and not really ont to flaunt my assets. The guys i’ve dated in the past have been averagely cute and more on the shy side also. This guy also seems really down to Earth and not aware of how attractive he is, but I can’t help but notice it!!
Anyway, how do you get over the initial shock of dating someone so gorgeous?! How do you deal with feeling like he/she might be “out of your league?”
My first thought here is.. I don’t believe in the whole concept of “out of your league” thing.. I mean sure, you might not have too much in common with someone who views himself as extremely good looking because he might be too high maintenance, concieted, or an embittered psycho relationship terrorist, but don’t pin your status on something as fleeting and subjective as looks.
I mean really, his looks are going to fade, so you need to find out what kind of a person he is under those muscles and perfectly chiseled features. If he happens to be perfect there too, why not just consider yourself lucky to have snagged that catch?
Of course this makes sense.. but at the same time, I see her concern. I mean everywhere she goes she’s going to have to deal with and accecpt the fact that women (and probably most men) will be checking out her date. And I don’t know about you, but I always prefer to be the “cuter one” in a relationship.
When I presented this today on the show, listeners started texting in about that old adage “5s pick 5s and 10s date other 10s.” But then how do you account for gold diggers who prey upon feeble 80 year old men? Teachers who have affairs with students? And then even if this is a universal truth, maybe your idea of a 10 is someone else’s 7.
To this listener I say, if you continue to go out and have fun, maybe you’re just underestimating your own attractiveness. If he didn’t want to be with you, he wouldn’t be.
But what do you think? How do you deal with dating someone viewed as “too attractive” or “too gorgeous?”
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For the release of “Rolling Words”, the new Snoop Dogg song book, San Francisco agency Pereira & O’Dell created this smokable version where each perforated page can be used as rolling paper (get it? rolling words? BRILLIANT), the cover is made from hemp seed paper, and the spine doubles as a match striking surface. Snoop explains it so much cooler.
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Happy Easter from Snoop.